7 Things You Can Learn From a Mom With Two Autistic Boys
There are many people with children who are different in the world. Some children have disabilities we can see and others have disabilities we can’t see. Over the coming weeks Access to Education is going to focus on some of the more common learning disabilities/challenges out there. The goal is to help others around them learn and understand their differences. Without differences this world would be a very gray place!
What is Autism Spectrum Disorder?
Wikipedia defines Autism as; “a range of mental disorders of the neurodevelopmental type. It includes autism and Asperger syndrome. Individuals on the spectrum often experience difficulties with social communication and interaction; and restricted, repetitive patterns of behavior, interests or activities. Symptoms are typically recognized between one and two years of age. Long-term problems may include difficulties in performing daily tasks, creating and keeping relationships, and maintaining a job.”
This is one of those learning challenges that is not seen as easily. The person or child has no physical signs of challenge. They can look like every other child or person save for the fact that they might repeat things, act a bit differently or move in a way that seems unique. More and more in the education world we are seeing these children integrated in our schools. Parents need to advocate in a way that fosters this integration while still ensuring that the needs and therapies can be accessed.
The puzzle piece has become the symbol for Autism.
Interview with an mom of two autistic boys!
Cherish is a friend and coworker at the school I work with. She was kind enough to be willing to share some of her story. She works each day with kindergarten families to help support them in creating positive learning outcomes. Here she tells us about her family with three children, two of whom are on the spectrum. The hope is to help other families understand what Autism is and how at effects families.
Cherish could you share a little about your child and what their challenge is?
I am a mother of 3 boys, 8, 6 and 4 year old. My first and youngest sons both have autism. They keep me active and on my toes and I wouldn’t have it any other way!
When did you first suspect that your child was possibly special?
For my first born, it’s when he was two years old and instead of banking more words, we noticed a significant loss of language. This was an uncertain time as we weren’t too sure what was ‘normal’ given he was our first.
For my youngest, he had unusual interest with solar system and did not respond to his name at 18 months old. Given these signs we thought something might be going on here as well.
How have your children’s differences affected your life or theirs?
My children definitely changed my life! I learned to appreciate the little things, like being called ‘mom’ as my first born did not call me mom until he turned 5 years old. I learned the importance of time and balancing family and work. When my youngest was diagnosed, time management became key in keeping up with the demands of my job and making sure that I am there for my children. Having a child with a special need has meant that I’ve become more aware as a teacher in my compassion to families and their struggles. I work very hard with my students and the their families to ensure a strong start in Kindergarten.
What is the one thing you wish people knew about your child?
I wish people could understand that my children are no different they want to be loved and play like every other child. My first born, for example, loves Captain Underpants just like very other 8 year old boy I know. My youngest enjoys ice cream cone like all other 4 year old I know. And they both love pajamas and would wear them to school if I let them! Just because they have a different way of thinking doesn’t make them ‘different’.
If you could describe their biggest strength would it be?
Both my children have so much to offer the world! For example my first born is witty, funny yet empathetic. My youngest is born a leader and athletic. They both enjoy numbers and excel in mathematics. Their way of thinking provides them a different way of seeing the numbers and creates unique way so thinking.
If you could say anything to their teacher what would tell them?
I would tell their teacher that they are special not because of autism but because they have the ability to show others that there is beauty in little things. Their lives are a testament that nothing is impossible when put faith into action. They are my little miracles and I thank God every day for them.
Is there anything else you’d like to share about your child or your experience as a family?
Our family may do things differently, but one thing is certain, we create wonderful memories together. Family supports, endures and gives us hope. During our journey together, there will be hard times…and there may be plenty of it! In time, we can go through it and come out stronger because we have each other. I hold on to the belief that the storms we go through are just seasons of our lives. No matter how challenging it may be, it too shall pass. To me, it is important to count my blessings and my greatest blessings are my children.
If you have friends or families with children with differences don’t be afraid to ask questions. For those of us who have children with challenges we’d rather you ask then stare. Learn from the people around you and don’t be afraid to ask!
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